Good manners are good treatment towards other people and things. The goal is to be courteous and respect others. For this, from a very young age, children must learn rules of courtesy and behavior.
The best environment where to teach and learn all this is the family one. It is good for parents to educate with deeds by setting an example and explaining everything necessary with dedication and time. The first educators are always the parents and must choose a good school according to their ideology to accompany them on the great adventure of educating.
How to raise a child with good manners
There is no good manners or obedience without a demand. The true parent-child relationship is based on love, respect, and trust. To correct a child, we have a very good weapon: positive pedagogy. This tells us that it is much more effective to praise a virtue than to recriminate a vice or failure. To educate a strong will in children, you have to be firm and constant. This helps to avoid capricious children.
Two good tricks would be:
-Anticipate situations by giving or remembering four concise and clear rules (eg: eating out or with the family, attending parties, visiting …)
– occupy the children. Generally, a busy child is an educated child. It is good to avoid an excess of dead moments, to give orders to children from a very young age (they will give them responsibility, experience and service to others) and to maintain play and / or sports times depending on their age (through play we can develop good coexistence habits).
Children learn the good treatment of others at home, seeing the example that their parents give them when treating each other and how each of them also treats each other individually, both family members, friends, and strangers …
Some good social manners that children from a very young age can learn from a good example are:
- The use of please, thank you and forgive naturally
- Greet and say goodbye when entering or leaving any place where we go (school, party, shop …)
- Take care of the tone and manners when addressing others (do not yell, do not use profanity or vulgar language …)
- Speak well of others, omit negative comments, criticisms and opinions
- Knowing how to listen and be silent when necessary (do not interrupt a conversation but it is an emergency)
- Chop before opening a door
- Ask permission before acting
- Be on time, be punctual
- Yield to the elderly
- Offer our help to others (equal and older)
- Be attentive and take care of other’s details, worry about them (friends, grandparents, relatives …) by
- Writing to them, sending them a message, calling them by phone …
- Share materials and toys, learning to give and be generous
- Respect the things of others
- Avoid fights and fights giving in if necessary learning to be a good partner, brother, son and friend
- Welcoming everyone by being sociable and communicative
Take care of the environment and things by keeping them in good condition and orderly. Some good hygiene and bearing manners that children from a very young age can learn from a good example are:
- Be well-groomed (hands, nails, face, mocotes)
- Be well-groomed
- Neat and clean exterior appearance
- Cover your mouth when coughing
- Frequent use of tissues if necessary
- Do not pick your nose
Finally, some good manners when it comes to eating that constitutes knowing how to be and that we must educate children by example and perseverance so that they acquire good habits are:
- Wash hands before eating
- Sit properly
- Put the napkin on your lap and use it frequently
- Put your hands on the table, one on each side of the plate
- Respond “no thanks” or “yes please” when offered something
- Eat at an appropriate pace
- Chewing with your mouth closed and not talking with your mouth full
- Make good use of cutlery and do not touch the food with your hands
- When you can’t reach something from the table, please ask for it to be brought to you
- Stay seated throughout the meal
- Clear the table
By way of conclusion, it would be good to emphasize that everything at once and in one day is not achieved and that time alone either. That is why it is good to set small goals for ourselves from the earliest years of our children and increase them as they are overcome. If we sow with joy, perseverance and perseverance, sooner or later, we will reap the fruits.
A child with good manners is usually an educated child. To correct them is to love them because we want the best for them and there is no doubt that children will be happier and safer living in a demanding and loving environment.